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What's best for my child: Stay at home or Creche?

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Michelle

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Joined: January 2007

What's best for my child: Stay at home or Creche?

Posted: Tue Jan 30, 2007 7:48 am

I've mixed feelings about going back to work after the birth of my 2nd child. The Creche my 2 year old is attending at the moment is fantastic, she loves it and we are thrilled with it, she is coming on in leaps and bounds and I know I couldn't stimulate her as much at home. There is a second child on the way and I'm so impressed with how well my 1st is doing, I'm thinking of going back to work after the 2nd is born....I never thought I would do this! It will cost the guts of my salary, so I will essentially be paying for my children to go to Creche. My hubby (like so many others) would like me to keep working and "put the children through Creche" but are we absolutely mad or what?...we are both doting parents and to be very honest apart from the usual small arguments, it's going really well. If I left work we couldn't afford the Creche for my 2 year old and I think she'd miss it... I don't have a stressful job and enjoy it (as much as you can). It is hard sometimes to juggle everything and it will probably get harder with two....would love some advice...

Emily

Posts: 4
Joined: January 2007

Re: What's best for my child: Stay at home or Creche?

Posted: Tue Jan 30, 2007 11:47 am

It's the question which is uppermost in every mother's mind nowadays. I have four children, two sets of twins, under the age of four. Up until four years ago, I was the ultimate career woman, a family law barrister with a hectic schedule. I never envisaged that I would give up work, in fact, I imagined that I'd return to work from the delivery ward! Although it might have been possible to do this with one baby, it simply wasn't with two. I decided to take a year off and cleared my work diary. I was very pleasantly surprised by how happy and content I was staying at home with the twins. Within eighteen months, I was pregnant again. I couldn't believe it when I discovered that it was another set of twins! Although my life is very hectic, I love being a stay at home mum. I couldn't recommend it highly enough. In my view, nothing could be more rewarding (and tiring!)

ContraryMary

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Joined: January 2007

Re: What's best for my child: Stay at home or Creche?

Posted: Wed Jan 31, 2007 9:56 pm

Michelle wrote:

You know what Michelle, it's one of those things you're damned if you do and damned if you don't. Some women just aren't cut out for stay-at-home motherhood, maybe you're one of them. If so, how does it help your kids if their mom is unhappy? But if you do keep working you're going to feel guilty. there's no way round it. I think it's just part of being a mom - we always feel guilty about something! Think long and hard about this and just do what's best for you and your family. Don't be overly influenced by what others say. And also, remember if you chose a course of action and it doesn't work out, you can just change your mind and try a different arrangement. Good luck!

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